Have you ever wished you could stop or control your sexual and romantic activities for a given period of time?.Do you find yourself obsessing about a specific person or sexual act even though these thoughts bring pain, craving or discomfort?.Are you unable to concentrate on other areas of your life because of thoughts or feelings you are having about another person or about sex?.Do you feel that your sexual and romantic behavior is about as rewarding as hijacking a revolving door?.Do you need to have sex, or "fall in love" in order to feel like a "real man" or a "real woman"?.Do you find yourself needing greater and greater variety and energy in your sexual or romantic activities just to achieve an "acceptable" level of physical and emotional relief?.Do you engage in the practice of voyeurism, exhibitionism, etc.Do you feel uncomfortable about your masturbation because of the frequency with which you masturbate, the fantasies you engage in, the props you use, and/or the places in which you do it?.Do you have sex and/or "relationships" to try to deal with, or escape from life's problems?.Does your sexual and/or romantic behavior affect your reputation?.Do you find yourself flirting or sexualizing with someone even if you do not mean to?.Do you feel that life would have no meaning without a love relationship or without sex?.Have you ever had a serious relationship threatened or destroyed because of outside sexual activity?.Do you believe that the problems in your "love life" result from continuing to remain with the "wrong" person?.Have you ever threatened your financial stability or standing in the community by pursuing a sexual partner?.Do you find yourself in a relationship that you cannot leave?.Do you feel that you're not "really alive" unless you are with your sexual / romantic partner?.Do you feel that your only (or major) value in a relationship is your ability to perform sexually, or provide an emotional fix?.Do you find that you have a pattern of repeating bad relationships?.the threat of being caught, the risk of contracting herpes, gonorrhea, AIDS, etc? Have you or do you have sex regardless of the consequences (e.g.Do you feel desperate about your need for a lover, sexual fix, or future mate?.Have you lost count of the number of sexual partners you've had?.Do you feel desperation or uneasiness when you are away from your lover or sexual partner?.Do you keep a list, written or otherwise, of the number of partners you've had?.Do you believe that someone can "fix" you?.Have you ever felt that you had to have sex?.Do you believe that sex and/or a relationship will make your life bearable?.Have you had or do you have sex with someone you don't (didn't) want to have sex with?.Do you make promises to yourself concerning your sexual or romantic behavior that you find you cannot follow?.Have you had sex at inappropriate times, in inappropriate places, and/or with inappropriate people?.Do you get "high" from sex and/or romance?.Do you feel that you don't want anyone to know about your sexual or romantic activities?.Do you find yourself unable to stop seeing a specific person even though you know that seeing this person is destructive to you?.Have you ever tried to control how much sex to have or how often you would see someone?.
We hope that these questions will prove helpful. We appreciate that the diagnosis of sex and love addiction is a matter that needs to be both very serious and very private. Despite this fact, we have found that short, to-the-point questions have often provided as effective a tool for self-diagnosis as have lengthy explanations of what sex and love addiction is. Many sex and love addicts have varying patterns which can result in very different ways of approaching and answering these questions. They are not intended to provide a sure-fire method of diagnosis, nor can negative answers to these questions provide absolute assurance that the illness is not present. The following questions are designed to be used as guidelines to identifying possible signposts of sex and love addiction.
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